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Guest Blogger Regina Boykin -She is Free

She is Free

Growing up I can recall on many occasions; stating I would never be like my parents “the negative side”. However, when I saw sprouts of them coming forth in my life, not having the maturity level to correctly deal with it I ignored the signs and never received the proper help, healing, forgiveness for them but most importantly myself. Forgiveness for me, because as a child and as an adult I blamed myself for the traumatic experience I endure as a child and as an adult.
But as we all know it’s something called
 “nature vs nurture” debate, nurture refers to personal experiences (i.e. empiricism or behaviorism). Nature is your genes. The physical and personality traits determined by your genes stay the same irrespective of where you were born and raised. Nurture refers to your childhood, or how you were brought up.
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We all react differently to experiences in our life. But are they healthy? In the Black community, we are programmed to believe outside help is negative. We can’t change who our parents are, but we can brake generation barriers that are unhealthy and toxic. But we have to do the work whether it’s getting therapy, forgiveness to whoever hurt you, Learning to reject things that do not bring you a healthy and fruitful life.

Today I was reading my daily devotional and I came across this message, and it reads
Call to Freedom

Before we go any further in these devotions, ask yourself, Do I really want to be free, or do I just like the idea of freedom? Am I willing to do what it takes to get free, or do I want someone else to do the work for me?

We all desire freedom, but it’s often more complex than a simple yes or no answer. Freedom means something very different to each of us, depending on the landscape and shaping of our lives.

How was your relationship with your mother and father? Were they both around? What about siblings? Did you experience abuse or trauma growing up? Shame? Fear? Anger? Discontentment? Anxiety?

What about walking through dark seasons that have stuck to you like they still own you? Broken relationships? Loss? Pain?

The sad reality is that everyone can identify with something I’ve just mentioned. As we each look back on our lives—even if we had two loving parents, a white picket fence, and a healthy church environment—the enemy has still tried to weave a tangled web of lies to keep us in bondage and isolate us.

The good news is that our God has given each of us a way out of that bondage. The question is, do we actually want to partner with God to do what is necessary to live free? Or are we content with putting on a show for the rest of our lives? It’s up to us.

There is no question that God wants you to live a free life, but He respects your free will enough to allow you to choose. There is always more ground to take, and once the ground is taken, it’s time to pour it out and give it away to others so that they may attain the measure of freedom that God has stored up for them as well. As freedom germinates, grows, and blossoms in your life, by its very nature it must bear fruit and reproduce. You will begin to transform the culture around you.

As you read today’s Scripture passage, marinate in it and meditate on it. Let it search your heart and motives on your quest to walk in the fullness of your freedom. Let it be like a mirror that you look into.

I chose freedom for my life, and reject rejection because God created me to be much more than past hurt.  Ask yourself what direction do you want your life to go and speak those words into your atmosphere.

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